Is it possible to adopt twins

We learned about their birth mom from a friend approximately two years to the day our journey began this includes the three and a half months before we signed with Lifetime. I [Thirza] personally struggled with the wait. Had we not been matched by the end of our contract with Lifetime, we had planned on ending our journey.

But Natalie called me and spoke words that I really needed to hear. The twins were born that day at am and am. The two-year wait came down to six days!

The staff at the hospital was nothing short of tremendous. They have something their older brother and sister do not. Donna , a blog contributor at the No Hands But Ours blog on special needs adoption, adopted a second child 5 weeks younger than her first adopted child. She wrote a great blog on the advantages and disadvantages of having virtual twins. Stacey , at Any Mommy Out There , adopted a toddler that was a couple of months older than her eldest bio child.

She writes about both the pros and cons of forced twinning, but on balance things have settled well for her family. The first 6 months, however, were very tough. Honestly, it was a really, really difficult transition. Far more difficult than I had dared to imagine.

She [her newly adopted daughter] cried whenever I put her down to hold my son. Screamed, actually, with anger and outrage. I felt angry at times and overwhelmed. Must she hoard every single second? Her brother needed time too. He cried as well those first few months.

None of us did really, we had a lot to learn. I cried a lot myself. That means lawyers have to file twice the paperwork, and while some will not charge double for this, most lawyers bill per hour so for every piece of paperwork the lawyer completes and files, theoretically they will work twice as many hours for a twin adoption than they would for the adoption of a single baby. Medical costs will also inevitably be higher for twins than a single baby. If nothing else, each baby will have their hospital bills.

On top of that, the birth mom may have had to be monitored more closely and had more frequent doctor appointments, she may have had to have a c-section, be on bedrest which causes an increase in expenses, and the odds of twins needing to spend time in a NICU are higher than for a single child, since it is far more difficult to carry a pregnancy with multiples to full-term. Most agencies will let you specify that you are open to multiples, but if you go into adoption saying you only want to adopt twins, you are going to find it difficult to find an agency or lawyer to help you.

If you are looking to add more than one child to your family at the same time, then I would encourage you to consider the adoption of a sibling group from foster care. If you are interested in infant adoption, foster care is not your best choice. However, if you are open to older children and want to give multiple children a home, look into foster care to requirements in your area.